I've been in contemplative mood since ystdy and even though i dont like to blog retrospectively, i thought i should share some of the questions i had ystdy :)
1. Would u consider an arranged marriage?
From what i've heard, the practice of arranged marriages still occurs even among the educated indians. I used to have reservations about arranged marriages cos what is the chance of having someone that complements u being chosen for u? On some days, i'd be optimistic and believe that people who love u and have arranged the marriage should have chosen the very best in their knowledge for you.
On other days, i think that it'll be super awful to find out on ur wedding day that the person u're marrying is the one u most cannot get along with in the kampong. Then how?
Wenyang was quick enough to say that the chance of that happening is low cos usually the match maker is the most nosey and would have known from the start not to pair 2 enemies up.
Interestingly, we discussed abt this during GP in rjc. Our GP teacher thinks that marriages in the past seems to last longer for various reason. When it comes to arranged marriages, there is this element of obligation that binds the couple and they both try their very best to accept one another or compromise. Nowadays, marriage mostly occurs out of love and when love subsides, marriage goes downhill :(
2. If u have to get married today, would u choose someone u know or an arranged marriage?
3. If u have chosen an arranged marriage, is there someone u hope to be ur spouse?
In a way, arranged marriages are like surprises with life long implications. No one said that surprises are always meant to be pleasant.. so today, i think that unless i really have a need to, i'd still prefer to marry someone i know :)
What about u?
